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We hope our book will help in the work of destigmatizing kink by making it more visible. I t started in the fall of I had just published a story in Playboy, Safeword, about a couple arranging a first-time session with a professional dominatrix. The story had helped them feel less alone, they said. And what if I were able to bring this book to life? If I could help make space for such a book on shelves like these — if I could repudiate, and push back against, the terrible fear that had made publishing my story so difficult? I wrote to Garth to propose we work together on an anthology featuring a multitude of stories having to do with kink, written by some of the writers we loved and admired.

Especially beforepeople lost jobs for being kinky. A sufficiently high of fictional serial killers in TV have also been kinky that I now all but expect it. This might be even more peculiar in light of the fact that, in kinky sexual encounters, the giving and adjusting of consent is usually expected to be central, and explicitly foregrounded.

In other words, as used to be true of queerness, kink is most often represented as a desire taboo kinks an attendant cause; to posit a cause can also be to start looking taboo kinks a cure. If you can imagine a kink, chances are that it exists. And if you happen to be in possession of a kink and you feel alone: quite possibly, you have counterparts in the world, people whose desires might consensually suit yours.

For a lot of people, kink is less any kind of a choice than a lifelong orientation; for some, kink can be so central to the experience of sex as to be not just requisite, but also, itself, sex. In the meantime, despite its increasing visibility on social media and dating apps, kink is still generally thought to be unfit for the public eye.

Unfit for children, especially, as in taboo kinks recurring argument that kinky attire should not be visible at Pride parades, which echoes the old, bad argument that any s of queerness should be kept out of sight of minors. What can result, of course, is a lot of shame.

A lot of hiding and denial, a lot of misery, of loneliness. My co-editor and I are on the side of increased openness, and when we talked about what our anthology should look like, we realized it was of high importance to us both that we refrain from defining kink.

Instead, we hoped to include as large a variety of perspectives as possible, and to open, to expand, rather than to close any gates. We reached out to more people, and in time, almost everyone we solicited said yes; the enthusiasm was as startling as it was moving. As still more writers sent us work, and as the collection came together, I loved how wide-ranging the stories turned out to be, how vast the theater of human desire. Even so, while working on this book, I found I often had to quell, ignore, bully and shove aside fears sharp enough to manifest as panic. Every writer I know seems to experience alarm upon publishing a book — it is an act of profound vulnerability, and how much more so, I have at times thought, to publish a book centered on what has historically been judged unacceptable.

Has, so often, been considered filth. One of our great hopes is that the book will participate in taboo kinks work of destigmatizing kink by making it more visible, and encouraging people to listen to their desires, to seek whole sexual lives. Life and style. RO Kwon. Tue 9 Feb . Topics Life and style Sex features. Reuse this content.

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